…a comment on another site, and was totally taken by the following.

We deserve lovers and friends that hurt when we are hurting, not leave us alone (sitting with their backs to us) when they hurt us.

Wow! How like an addict. What are lovers? People who love us and will avoid hurting us whenever they can, recognizing that it’s sometimes necessary in honest communication, but never OK to ignore. Friends, ditto. And yet us drunks, addicts and codependents still consider folks who constantly hurt us to be friends…and lovers!

Are we sick, or what?