My Final Battle With Sex Addiction, by “James Wolfe”

“I stopped drinking and doing drugs, and I worked a solid program. But I had yet to face my most hard-wired compulsion….

“This is the digital crack era of Internet porn. Lust is out in the open, encouraged and rewarded. In this culture, the choice is hard—but it’s never been easy. Remember St. Augustine, asking God in the fourth century AD, “Grant me chastity, but not yet”?…”

http://www.thefix.com/content/battling-sex-addiction2073?page=all

Sobriety Got Me Though One Heck Of A Week

Occasionally in life, even in sobriety, we have periods that just plain suck. As a sponsor of mine was fond of saying, “In sobriety, life didn’t get better right away but it got real clear!” The difference is, in sobriety we’re able to feel our pain, work our way through it, and come out the other side in a healthy way, instead of stuffing all those feelings and having to deal with them later when they start squishing through the cracks in our mental armor.

One of my oldest friends passed away last Friday….

Read more at Bill W’s Recovery Blog

Quote:

“We must never be blindsided by the futile philosophy that we are just the hapless victims of our inheritance, our life experience, and our surroundings–that these are the sole forces that make our decisions for us … We have to believe that we can really choose.”

AA Co-Founder, Bill W., November 1960, From: “Freedom Under God: The Choice Is Ours” The Language of the Heart 

The Stockbroker and the Proctologist

I post this every year on this date.

June 10th is the 77th anniversary of the meeting of a stockbroker from New York, only a few months sober and fearful of drinking, and a drunken proctologist from Akron, Ohio.

Dr. Bob Smith and Bill Wilson

William Wilson—Bill W., to generations of alcoholics—had tried to stop drinking for many years. A successful stockbroker before the Crash of ’29, he had made fortunes—and lost them because of his inability to stay dry. Bill had been in and out of hospitals repeatedly, and had been declared an incurable drunk by eminent physicians.

Dr. Robert Smith had tried to dry out many times. He ran a successful medical practice in Akron down to nothing and was reduced to staying at home and drinking, seemingly without any ability to stop. His health had already been affected by the constant saturation of his body with alcohol, and he had developed a painkiller addiction as well. By his own testimony he had resigned himself to his fate as an incurable alcoholic.

The stockbroker had, through the auspices of the Oxford Group (more here), managed to stay abstinent for several months. The Oxford Group’s tradition of testimony to other members, combined with prayer, had given Bill the fortitude necessary to stay dry for that period of time, but he was prone to bouts of depression throughout his life, and to accpmpanying urges to drink. In July of 1935, he had been in Akron for some time on assignment from his employer, and very much “needed” a drink.

Wilson got the idea that if he could talk to another alcoholic about what was happening with him—talk with someone who could really understand what he was going through—he might be able to withstand the compulsion to drink. Through a combination of events that can in retrospect only be called serendipitous, and with the help of Henrietta Seiberling, a member of the Goodyear Rubber Co. Seiberlings, he was put in touch with Dr. Bob. As a result of their meeting and talking, Bob Smith was able to stop drinking too, one day at a time. The date of his last drink, June 10th, 1935, is considered to be the birthday of Alcoholics Anonymous.

Bill remained in Akron with Bob and his wife Anne for some time. Anne was tremendously supportive of both of them, as was Bill’s wife, Lois. (Anne and Lois were the founders, in 1951, of Al-Anon, a fellowship for families and friends of alcoholics.) Over a period of several weeks Bill and Bob found others to talk with about alcoholism in order to help keep themselves sober. Bill carried the “message” back to New York, and from that kernel grew the mighty tree that is AA today—estimated to have in excess of two million current members in more than 150 countries around the world.

Bill and Bob continued to work with each other and with others until the death of Dr. Bob on November 16th, 1950. Bill lived to see AA become the worldwide fellowship that it is today. He died on January 24th, 1971. Bill’s desperate collaboration with Dr. Bob, and their attempts to keep each other sober, sprouted not only Alcoholics Anonymous, but Narcotics Anonymous and the 150-plus 12-step fellowships that exist today.

In the year 2000 Bill Wilson was named one of the 100 most influential people of the 20th Century by Time Magazine. Surely we must consider Dr. Bob to have been honored in spirit, as well.

Happy Birthday, AA, and thank you for my life.

Sponsor Stuff (Part 1) — Sunrise Detox Blog

Therapists use a variety of tools to help newcomers and those formerly sober folks who felt the need to do some additional field work. One therapist I know likes to use the concept of the AA “Askit Basket”, adapted to a mixed group of alcoholics and other addicts, where participants put anonymous question slips into a basket or jar, and then the group uses them at random to stimulate discussions. With the permission of the group, she passes the anonymous questions on to me, and I try to craft explanations for a wider audience.

Lately there have been a lot of questions about sponsors and sponsorship, so I thought I’d devote a couple of posts to questions about that important subject.  Read more at the blog…

Why I Haven’t Been Posting Much Lately

Both of my faithful readers will by now have noticed that I’m not posting very regularly on this site. It’s not though lack of interest, and I didn’t relapse (in fact, I just celebrated my 21st sober anniversary on 9/14/10).

Thing is, I’ve taken a part-time job writing for a recovery site, and I don’t have time to maintain both blogs. Since the other (paid) job covers the same territory, and since I have the potential to reach more people, it was a no-brainer. I’ll continue to post here from time to time, but it will be irregular at best.

I invite you all to subscribe to my posts at the Sunrise Detox Blog.   (Click the thingy at the bottom left of the page.) Thanks for visiting WhatMeSober.Com, and thanks for your interest.

Keep on keepin’ on,

Bill