Category Archives: Growth

What’s Lost as Handwriting Fades

My-wife-the-shrink has always maintained that journaling and other handwritten work sticks with us longer, and accesses more memories and deeper thoughts than working on a keyboard.  My own efforts at journaling, which I’ve done for more than fifty years, bear … Continue reading

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Rowboat

One of my favorite Buddhist teachings was given by the late Charlotte Joko Beck in her wonderful book “Everyday Zen”. It goes something like this. Imagine that you live by a lake, and you have a rowboat. You’ve just repaired … Continue reading

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The Iron Masque

Masque [mask, mahsk]: a form of aristocratic entertainment in the16th and 17th Centuries…elaborate productions delivered by amateur and professional actors. Dictionary.com Addicts are actors. We hesitate to reveal who we really are because we are ashamed, and we develop an … Continue reading

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Rituals

Rituals are an important part of human society.  They are comforting, and give us a sense of stability: the way we do it is the same way they do it everywhere else; we’re part of the Big Picture; we belong; … Continue reading

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Life is about the mess. ~ Unknown

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A 180° Turn Still Keeps Me In The Rut

I’m always amused by the way atheists seem to feel compelled to straighten out all the believers. Seldom does one run across a person self-labeled an “Atheist” that they don’t seem eventually to drag out some ax to grind with … Continue reading

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Perspective

My wife just called me and told me that she damaged the car by hitting a curb.  It may cost us some repairs, and perhaps a new tire and aluminum wheel.  She was distracted for a moment, irritated about having … Continue reading

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Empty Rowboat

Suppose we are out on a lake and it’s a bit foggy–not too foggy, but a bit foggy–and we’re rowing along in our little boat having a good time. And then, all of a sudden, coming out of the fog, … Continue reading

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Right? Or Happy?

On how many interesting relationships have I missed out by labeling others as — well — others?  How much common ground have I missed because of my unskillful ability to hear what others were really saying? When I think of people … Continue reading

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“The pessimist complains about the wind. The optimist expects it to change. The leader adjusts the sails.” – John Maxwell

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Remembrance of Things Past

I was just reviewing the list of blogs I subscribe to, and ran across the last entry of a writer friend who is no longer with us.  If you want to read it, you can find it here.  Marsha was  thoughtful, … Continue reading

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Huge Study Finds Brain Networks Connected to Teen Drug Abuse

A recent study has indicated that teen drinking is strongly related to problems in the neural network that controls impulsive behavior.  Professionals have long known that the two go together, but had no indication of which came first. This study … Continue reading

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Resentment

Resentments are the poison that we drink, and then wait for the other person to die. – Anonymous Some of the truest words you’ll ever read. Think about it.  Think about that terrible thing that (insert name here) did to … Continue reading

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Stress: How to Cope Better With Life’s Challenges

Stress: How to Cope Better With Life’s Challenges Feelings of stress are caused by the body’s instinct to defend itself. This instinct is good in emergencies, such as getting out of the way of a speeding car. But stress can … Continue reading

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