Fred, who has been coming to meetings for months, can’t remember what the 2nd Step is about.
Mary has gotten to the 4th Step several times, then bails, relapses, comes back, and repeats the pattern again.
Alec keeps screwing around with sponsors. He usually has one, but then finds a reason to fire them and find another. Little work results.
Mark has been around for years, talks a good game, but when pressed will admit that he’s never worked the steps with a sponsor and relies on his “spirituality” to keep him sober.
[The names have been changed to protect the guilty, but you know who you are.]
Which begs the question, “How Long Until We Actually Start Work?” Continue reading
There’s an old saying that “You can’t wade in the same river twice.” The river may look the same, but the water and everything beneath the surface is constantly changing. Continue reading
One of the skills we have to master early in recovery is that of making good decisions. In truth, recovery is mostly about making good decisions, and we alcoholics and other addicts tend not to be very good at it. It’s critical to remember that every decision we make changes us and the rest of our lives to some extent, and there is really no way of knowing how much, or in what direction. That’s why it’s vitally important that we do our best to ensure, as often as possible, that we’re doing “the next right thing.” Continue reading
I was at a meeting tonight, and when they were handing out chips the guy presenting them had another fellow helping him by selecting them ahead of time and handing them to him when needed. Unfortunately, two or three people complained that they’d gotten the wrong color chips.
After about the third one, the guys conferred briefly, then the presenter said, “I asked my friend to help me because I’m color blind. Now he tells me that he’s color blind too!”
Got quite a round of laughter and applause.
Most addicts are addicted to two things over and above their chemical and behavioral addictions. These two things have no substance, are only ideas, with no factual basis, and yet they essentially control our outlooks on life and–to a great extent–the way we live it. Overcoming their effect is one of the most important aspects of recovery, yet we rarely hear them referred to specifically in meetings. Continue reading
Honest, I started thinking about this without even remembering that Thanksgiving was coming up. When I began to consider a title, however, it dawned on me. Then, being the sort of person I am (read: addict/alcoholic) I immediately thought, “How trite! I don’t want to publish a gratitude post in November!” Continue reading