Honest, I started thinking about this without even remembering that Thanksgiving was coming up. When I began to consider a title, however, it dawned on me. Then, being the sort of person I am (read: addict/alcoholic) I immediately thought, “How trite! I don’t want to publish a gratitude post in November!” Continue reading
Down on yourself? Consider the lowly mushroom. If it can turn bullshit into gourmet food, so can we — and we don’t even have to eat the b.s; we just need to stop doing it to ourselves. We can also choose to remain in the dark, living in our collection of manure. It’s up to us.
To be a woman suffering from a drinking problem in America is a lonely enterprise, defined by stigma and judgment. And that’s tragic. Women in America are drinking more than ever before, and they are suffering the consequences in sharply rising numbers.
It usually comes from the back of the room, but is sometimes heard outside the rooms of recovery as well. It’s not uncommon in detox and primary treatment facilities. Depending on the situation, it may be delivered in a penitent tone or the voice of imagined authority. Regardless of how it sounds, or where you hear it, a whine is a whine is an excuse. And a poor one at that. Continue reading
I wrote in a previous post (the 2nd one down, I believe) about things that we need to accomplish before undertaking to make amends to others. Merriam-Webster.com defines amends as compensation for a loss or injury, as do most dictionaries that I’ve checked. To make amends is to do more than simply say, “I’m sorry.” If something is serious enough to require amends, it is serious enough to consider carefully how the amends is to be made. Continue reading
Our minds are all we have. They are all we have ever had. And they are all we can offer others. This might not be obvious, especially when there are aspects of your life that seem in need of improvement — when your goals are unrealized, or you are struggling to find a career, or you have relationships that need repairing. But it’s the truth. Every experience you have ever had has been shaped by your mind. Every relationship is as good or as bad as it is because of the minds involved. If you are perpetually angry, depressed, confused, and unloving, or your attention is elsewhere, it won’t matter how successful you become or who is in your life — you won’t enjoy any of it.
Sam Harris — Waking Up