We exist only in the present, and we need to learn to live in the present. We can’t affect the past, and we have no way of knowing what effect we may have on the future. We need to do our living today, concentrate on the present moment — on doing the next right thing — and let the future take care of itself. If we are always thinking about tomorrow, next week, next year — the next raise, romance, promotion or what have you, we are unlikely to do well at work, love, or life in general.
Every change we make in our lives affects the future, sometimes in big ways, and sometimes in small ones. I can’t know whether failing to buy new shoelaces today will result in a dangerous fall tomorrow.
“I prayed for twenty years, but received no answer until I prayed with my legs.”
~ Frederick Douglass
Am I doing the footwork?
One of the biggest problems I’ve had in recovery is my habit of overthinking things. I grew up around people with an insatiable desire to name, classify, quantify, and then sign, seal and deliver all manner of information, from the Latin names of plants to the works of great artists. The emphasis was on knowing stuff, not understanding it — superficial was good enough, as long as you could sound like you knew what was happening. In a way it was similar to the belief, common in many primitive societies, that if you know something’s name, you have power over it.
I see this sort of thing in the rooms of recovery, as well, and I was one of the worst afflicted: gathering knowledge for its own sake, not to facilitate understanding. Continue reading
“You can’t think and hit the ball at the same time.”
~ Yogi Berra
Our instincts often serve us better than conscious thought. If something seems wrong, it usually is. The gut knows; it’s the nut on top that causes the problems.
Perfectionism has no place in recovery.
It takes time to absorb our program, and we do that during our down time,
not while we’re working. It makes no sense to cram, because
the program has only one criterion: improvement.
IF WE’RE NOT HAVING ANY FUN, WE’RE DOING IT WRONG!
We have to take time to smell the roses.