Category Archives: recovery

Who Do You Think You’re Foolin’?

Fred, who has been coming to meetings for months, can’t remember what the 2nd Step is about.

Mary has gotten to the 4th Step several times, then bails, relapses, comes back, and repeats the pattern again.

Alec keeps screwing around with sponsors. He usually has one, but then finds a reason to fire them and find another. Little work results.

Mark has been around for years, talks a good game, but when pressed will admit that he’s never worked the steps with a sponsor and relies on his “spirituality” to keep him sober.

[The names have been changed to protect the guilty, but you know who you are.]

Which begs the question, “How Long Until We Actually Start Work?” Continue reading

Making Decisions

One of the skills we have to master early in recovery is that of making good decisions. In truth, recovery is mostly about making good decisions, and we alcoholics and other addicts tend not to be very good at it. It’s critical to remember that every decision we make changes us and the rest of our lives to some extent, and there is really no way of knowing how much, or in what direction. That’s why it’s vitally important that we do our best to ensure, as often as possible, that we’re doing “the next right thing.” Continue reading

Funny…

I was at a meeting tonight, and when they were handing out chips the guy presenting them had another fellow helping him by selecting them ahead of2month time and handing them to him when needed.  Unfortunately, two or three people complained that they’d gotten the wrong color chips.

After about the third one, the guys conferred briefly, then the presenter said, “I asked my friend to help me because I’m color blind.  Now he tells me that he’s color blind too!”

Got quite a round of laughter and applause.

Two of the Biggest Obstacles To Recovery

Most addicts are addicted to two things over and above their chemical and behavioral addictions. These two things have no substance, are only ideas, with no factual basis, and yet they essentially control our outlooks on life and–to a great extent–the way we live it. Overcoming their effect is one of the most important aspects of recovery, yet we rarely hear them referred to specifically in meetings. Continue reading

Unhappy hour: Non-drinkers devise strategies to navigate booze-centered work events

The researchers found that most non-drinkers didn’t volunteer the fact that they were non-drinkers because they did not want to draw attention to themselves. And while some would answer honestly if asked, many declined a drink in ways that made their non-drinking ambiguous. For example, instead of saying “I don’t drink,” study participants often said things like “I’m not drinking tonight” or “I’ve got an early morning” to avoid having a drink….

While non-drinkers used a variety of techniques to navigate these social situations, all of the techniques stem from the same perceived pressure to conform to social norms in the workplace. And that may be a problem….

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What? Another Gratitude Post?

by Bill

Honest, I started thinking about this without even remembering that Thanksgiving was coming up. When I began to consider a title, however, it dawned on me. Then, being the sort of person I am (read: addict/alcoholic) I immediately thought, “How trite! I don’t want to publish a gratitude post in November!” Continue reading