It’s well-known that stress is a major precursor to relapse. This health bulletin from the University of Alabama is practically required reading for folks in recovery, especially from alcohol.
“The body doesn’t distinguish between ‘bad’ stress from life or work and ‘good’ stress caused by game-day excitement,” Gilchrist said. “It impacts your health either way.”
My friend Rodney died a couple of weeks ago. I have wanted to write something about him, and just couldn’t; it wouldn’t happen. But after his memorial service last night, I made a journal entry that I’ll share with you instead. It says about all that needs to be shared. [Minor edits for readability]
7/2/14 — God has a well-honed sense of irony, if not humor. After one of the most heart-wrenching — and uplifting — grief experiences of my life last night, today’s little [meditation] homily is about acceptance of the fact of death.
Rodney’s memorial service was the most wonderful thing! The theme was the ocean, which he loved. They had a beautiful little ceremony where you could go up and dip your hands in some ocean water, with the central of three bowls surrounded by seashells. (I brought a tiny one home to remember him by — not that it’s ever likely to prove difficult.)
But the most amazing part was the things people had to say about him! It wasn’t the usual platitudes, but things like, “Rodney saved my live!”; “I wouldn’t be sober if it wasn’t for him!”; and “My family loves him because they got their son back.” For me, who knew him mostly as a seeker, these revelations of his beloved place in the recovery community and his church were [eye-openers].
How much we have to learn about others, even those we think we’ve come to know pretty well! Maybe, as the minister at the Metropolitan Community Church said last night, God needed his help “up there.”
Rest well, dear friend.
A craving is a feeling that we want to get high — to forget who we are, what’s happening, what happened in the past, things that worry us, family problems and so forth. There are times when we’re unable to think about anything else, and others when the cravings are fleeting and easy to ignore…. Handling Cravings
“Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.” – Pearl S. Buck
Adrienne, over at Clarity Way, has created a great infographic about relapse. Check it out!
“It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that if you want to stay sober you don’t go into a bar, order a drink, and sit and look at it. There’s a technical term for folks who test themselves that way: relapsers.”
Read more at the Sunrise Detox Blog
A doctor who treats himself has a fool for a patient.
That applies double to non-doctors — two fools for the price of one.