My friend Rodney died a couple of weeks ago. I have wanted to write something about him, and just couldn’t; it wouldn’t happen. But after his memorial service last night, I made a journal entry that I’ll share with you instead. It says about all that needs to be shared. [Minor edits for readability]
7/2/14 — God has a well-honed sense of irony, if not humor. After one of the most heart-wrenching — and uplifting — grief experiences of my life last night, today’s little [meditation] homily is about acceptance of the fact of death.
Rodney’s memorial service was the most wonderful thing! The theme was the ocean, which he loved. They had a beautiful little ceremony where you could go up and dip your hands in some ocean water, with the central of three bowls surrounded by seashells. (I brought a tiny one home to remember him by — not that it’s ever likely to prove difficult.)
But the most amazing part was the things people had to say about him! It wasn’t the usual platitudes, but things like, “Rodney saved my live!”; “I wouldn’t be sober if it wasn’t for him!”; and “My family loves him because they got their son back.” For me, who knew him mostly as a seeker, these revelations of his beloved place in the recovery community and his church were [eye-openers].
How much we have to learn about others, even those we think we’ve come to know pretty well! Maybe, as the minister at the Metropolitan Community Church said last night, God needed his help “up there.”
Rest well, dear friend.
A craving is a feeling that we want to get high — to forget who we are, what’s happening, what happened in the past, things that worry us, family problems and so forth. There are times when we’re unable to think about anything else, and others when the cravings are fleeting and easy to ignore…. Handling Cravings
“Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.” – Pearl S. Buck
Adrienne, over at Clarity Way, has created a great infographic about relapse. Check it out!
“It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that if you want to stay sober you don’t go into a bar, order a drink, and sit and look at it. There’s a technical term for folks who test themselves that way: relapsers.”
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A doctor who treats himself has a fool for a patient.
That applies double to non-doctors — two fools for the price of one.
Addicts in early recovery often think they can overcome the effects of relapse triggers, despite having spent a long time proving otherwise.
Valentine’s Day is one of our oldest Western holidays, dating back to the 5th Century. Valentine was executed for performing the wrong marriages, subsequently declared a saint, and ever since we have associated his feast day with love, marriage and general togetherness.
We’re told “No relationships in the first year” and here it is, the Relationship Day, so I thought I’d discuss relationships in recovery…
Now that we’ve had a Merry Christmas, let’s look ahead to the start of a sober New Year: the last day of this year and the first few hours of 2013. Back in The Day, we used to call New Year’s Eve “Amateur Night.” Be that as it may, there is no question that December 31st and the early hours of the following year are the premier venues for chemically-enhanced “fun.”
Traditionally, on New Year’s Eve the rules are loosened up a bit and behavior that would be looked at askance (at best) on other occasions is tolerated and even encouraged. That being the case, it’s a minefield for people in recovery, especially newcomers. So we here at Sunrise Detox thought we’d share some of the strategies that have helped us have a sober new year.
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