I hope I’ll win the lottery, but I don’t expect to.
A lot of us addicts get our hopes and expectations amazingly tangled. Most of us need to take a close look at the difference during our early recovery (and often afterward), because they can cause huge complications in our lives.
Wherever you go, there you are.
~ John Kabat-Zinn
“The cause of my irritation is not in this person but in me.”
~ Anthony de Mello
“The mind is rarely so disturbed but that the company of a friend will restore it to some degree of tranquility.”
~ Adam Smith, ‘The Theory Of Moral Sentiments’
“The great failing is to see yourself as more than you are and to value yourself at less than your true worth.”
~ Johann Wolfgang von-Goethe
Experience is what you get by not having it when you need it. ~Anonymous
Every now and then I’ll run into one of two situations at a 12-Step meeting:
- Someone will read a statement about “our primary purpose” requesting that sharing be confined to such-and-such a topic; or
- Someone will comment “We don’t talk about that, this is ____ Anonymous”.
Generally speaking. I don’t have an issue with the first, although I think it ignores reality to a remarkable degree. But the issue is carried over to the second it’s another matter. If a group has a problem with talk about other issues, the proper way to handle it is for someone to take the so-called offender aside after the meeting, and gently explain the rule and why it exists (if they can). That should be a policy arrived at by the group conscience, not an individual or the service office. As AA puts it, “Our leaders are but trusted servants, they do not govern.” [Emphasis mine.] Continue reading