A Challenge


I belong to a 12-step fellowship that deals largely with relationships — with others and with ourselves.  Last night, at the end of the meeting, the question was raised: What Is Love.

My challenge to you is to address this question in the comments.  What is your idea of love — healthy, sustainable, long-lasting love?  I’m not referring to the lust that often characterizes new relationships.  Although it has its place in the scheme of things by encouraging us to remain with the “other” until something longer-lasting hopefully evolves, it never lasts and thus is not, in itself, capable of sustaining a healthy relationship.  I’m talking about the kind of love and respect that has old couples walking along hand-in-hand and smiling at each other at the start of their second thirty, forty or fifty years.

So, let’s hear it.  Be sure to use the comments, not the contact form, so that we can all see each other’s ideas.

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3 thoughts on “A Challenge

  1. good choices

    I like being on my own. I’m fiercely independent and lose patience with people quickly. I write people off completely much quicker than most. I don’t have some sentimental fantasy about spending every minute possible with people because our time on earth is limited. That seems arbitrary and futile – except when I love someone. Love, for me, is when no matter what my mood, no matter what I want to do with my time right then, no matter how irritated or how happy or how tempting the alternatives, the answer to whether I’d rather be with that person or not is always – be with that person. Has nothing to do with lust. This is how I feel about both my kids and the love of my life. NO MATTER WHAT, I’d rather spend the moments together.


  2. mullguy

    Love has to have a foundation of a strong feeling for another but it has to go deeper than the romantic love often depicted in Hollywood. It is just an overall sense that you want what is best for a person. However because it may at times feel like the love has gone away it is also a choice to continue loving through the bad times.


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