A Secular Form Of The Twelve Steps

A Secular Form Of The Twelve Steps

  1. We admitted that we could not control our addictions or stop acting out, and that our lives were unmanageable. 
  2. We came to believe that others who had experienced our problems or who understood them could help us return to and maintain our sanity. 
  3. Having found ourselves unable to recover on our own, we decided to accept what they said and act on their suggestions. 
  4. We made a careful inventory, as complete as possible, of our bad feelings about ourselves, of the aspects of our own characters that had contributed to them, and of the harm we had done. We also noted the times when we had done well and gave ourselves credit for them. 
  5. We showed our inventories to and discussed them with at least one other person. 
  6. We accepted our ethical and personal weaknesses, and that they needed to change. 
  7. We became willing to admit our weaknesses to others when appropriate, and to heed the advice that they might offer. 
  8. We became willing to make amends to those we had harmed and to forgive those who had harmed us. We understood that forgiveness is for our benefit, not that of others, and is not the same thing as approval. 
  9. We made direct amends to those people whenever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others, including ourselves. 
  10. We developed a practice of daily personal inventory. When we were wrong we admitted it promptly, and when we had done well we recognized it. 
  11. We adopted a practice of meditation and reflection on our place in the world, and how we could best contribute to the wellbeing of others. 
  12. Having experienced positive personal changes as the result of these efforts, we tried to carry this message to other addicts and to practice these principles in all areas of our lives.