Resentment is a result of not being able to control the past;
Anger is a result of not being able to control the present; and
Fear is a result of not being able to control the future.
The study of physics has taught us four basic things about energy.
- Energy is never created or destroyed (this is called the First Law of Thermodynamics).
- Energy can be transferred from one object to another.
- Energy comes in many different forms, which can generally be divided into Potential or Kinetic energy.
- Energy can be converted from any one of these forms into any other, and vice versa.
These concepts can be applied to all sorts of metaphysical ideas by people who have heard of these properties but not gone any further in their studies of physics. However, we’re not talking about psychic energy and such; this is about energy as we use it daily, knowingly and with understanding.
When we apply energy we create work. In physics, work has a very specific definition: Continue reading
I’ve written about this before, but I think it’s important enough that I’m doing a sort of reprise.
I have a couple of friends from the program who call me almost daily. The calls are inevitably for one of two reasons: lightweight “bread-and-butter” calls (okay under some circumstances, just to touch base) or to bitch about things that they’d rather whine about than change (not okay, in case you didn’t get the drift).
Part of my job, as a person in recovery, is to support others traveling the same road. In the rooms we do that in various ways: sponsorship, example, showing up at meetings, sharing, taking phone calls, listening, fellowship, and any number of other things. These things are as integral a part of our programs as abstinence from acting out in our addictions. We don’t do these things simply out of altruism or codependency; they are the things that keep us on the path in sobriety. Frankly, I don’t dare not do them! They don’t make me special; they make me part of a program of recovery. Continue reading
I can’t count the times I’ve heard shares in various fellowships like this: “I just had one beer, but I figured since I’d slipped anyway I might as well have another.” (Substitute pertinent acting out for “beer”.)
All too often, these sorts of remarks are heard from folks who were “out there” for much longer than just an evening or a couple of days, most often for months or years, and they all say it got worse than before. Because the next morning Continue reading
The other day while I was washing a mortar and pestle in the bathroom sink (too complicated; don’t ask), I noticed that the heavy machined stainless steel pestle seemed to roll quite easily up and down the slope of the porcelain basin. So I gave it a shove and watched as it kept oscillating up the slopes and down again for a surprisingly long time. I cranked up the stopwatch on my phone (Imagine writing that 20 years ago!) gave the pestle a good shove, and timed it until it became stationary again.
The back and forth momentum lasted for 7 minutes and 24 seconds!
Later I was demonstrating the Miracle Of The Rolling Pestle to my-wife-the-shrink and got to thinking how important momentum is to recovery. Continue reading
Dictionary.com defines integrity as “adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.”
Way back in the ‘80’s during the real Miami Vice days, I knew a Dade County police officer whose beat was along the Miami River. “Jorge” was offered $50,000 to take his lunch break at a particular time — one day, one time. In those days, that was roughly equivalent to a year’s pay for a patrolman. Definitions are well and good, but when the bag man shows up with 50K and you have kids in school and a mortgage, it’s simpler than that: do I do the right thing, despite the cost, or the wrong thing?
I hope I’ll win the lottery, but I don’t expect to.
A lot of us addicts get our hopes and expectations amazingly tangled. Most of us need to take a close look at the difference during our early recovery (and often afterward), because they can cause huge complications in our lives.