Buddhists speak of the Five Hindrances to Enlightenment:
- Ill-will (resentments)
- Sensory desire (craving)
- Restlessness and worry (fear of the future and shame about the past)
- Doubt (denial)
- Sloth and torpor (laziness, apathy)
If I substitute recovery for enlightenment, how do these things bear on my sobriety?
Thanks Joe C.
Today is being celebrated as the 83rd anniversary of the last drink by a drunken proctologist from Akron, Ohio. His sobriety eventually led to the founding of the first Twelve-Step fellowship.
Lying is hiding. What am I prepared to hide today? What am I going to do about fixing that?
Do I treat my mistakes as failures, or as opportunities to learn and become more skillful?
Over the years of our addictions, many of us developed some pretty sophisticated ways of dealing with low self-esteem. Most of us were pretty good at them before we even became active in our addictions. We may have learned the behavior from caretakers, without even being conscious of it. Continue reading “Careful throwing those stones! They bounce!”
Self worth wanes and shame remains when we fall short of our values–or are they someone else’s values? When we say “I should” it is worth exploring whose values we are measuring ourselves by.
~ Joe C., “Beyond Belief – Agnostic Musings for 12 Step Life”, May 9th
What is a relapse?
That may seem like a silly question. It’s when you take a drink, or shoot up, or buy something you can’t afford, or patronize a sex worker, or begin doing for your addict (or kid) things that they need to be doing for themselves.
Well, sorta. How about if a drinker starts hanging around the local bar with his or her old drinking buddies, talking the same trash, acting out in all the old ways except taking a drink? What if, instead of cruising, a sex addict hangs out in the mall checking out all the girls walking by–or, instead of that, watches porn for an hour? Continue reading “What Is A Relapse?”