Hooked on a feelin’

LOVE addiction might sound fun and exciting, but the truth is the condition might be at the heart of thousands of failed relationships.

Rooted in childhood abandonment and shame, Love Addiction sees sufferers using denial as a protective, coping mechanism and become reliant on fantasy to escape the reality of their relationships. Are you hooked on a feeling? – The Daily Record

Love Addicts Anonymous

I AM NOT A FOOD ADDICT! …am not…am not…am not………. — by Bill

Of all the addictions, food has to be one of the most elusive. Let’s face it: we don’t really need tobacco, heroin, cocaine, booze, shopping, sex, religion and so forth in order to survive — although we may think we do. It’s hard to convince an addict who’s shaking it off cold turkey, or an alcoholic who’s in the midst of an unsupervised detox*, but people do survive these things every day and, despite how it may feel, no one is going to die if he doesn’t get laid today.

Food — well, that’s a different issue. Continue reading “I AM NOT A FOOD ADDICT! …am not…am not…am not………. — by Bill”

Recovery Café helps fill the inner emptiness

AFTER HURRICANE KATRINA tore the roof off her fifth-floor apartment in Miami, Cora wanted to get as far from Florida as she could. She left her job at a nursing home and caught a bus for Seattle.

During the five-day trip, her money and credit cards were stolen. On arriving, Cora found a bed at a homeless shelter. She found something else there as well — temptation. Once an addict, Cora had kicked her habit years before. But now drugs were all around her. Hurricane and homelessness might have triggered a relapse if Cora hadn’t found her way to Recovery Café. Recovery Café helps fill the inner emptiness

No more happy hour in France — Telegraph

France is planning to ban happy hours in bars in a bid to stem the rise of “le binge drinking”, until recently seen as a uniquely British problem.

The government proposals follow calls from doctors and politicians to tackle excessive alcohol consumption. France to ban happy hours

Interesting approach. Guess they’ll have to get plastered at home.

Twelve Steps …

Prairie Preacher: Twelve Steps …

I had a friend who once spoke of the Twelve Step Two Step … he noted that it is too easy for recovering addicts to take the first and the last step of the 12 Step Programme and skip the 10 steps in between … we spent many an hour discussing the implications and the transformative power of engaging and living ALL 12 steps one careful step at a time.

I’ve always thought the challenging steps are the Fourth and the Eighth.

The fourth step being: “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”

And the eight being: “Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.” …

Bill comments:

A proper amends involves the three elements of the old Talmudic reparations: Responsibility, Regret and Repair.

  • I must admit and accept responsibility for what I did. I may not say, “I’m sorry but…” or make excuses. The purpose of amends is not to create a balance; rather, it is to right a wrong and repair a relationship — not the same thing.
  • I must then look the other person in the eye and say, “I’m sorry,” and mean it.
  • Finally, I must inquire what I can do to try to right the wrong, if it is not obvious, and make an genuine effort to do the next right thing, whatever it may be. Furthermore, I must carry through with it.

These efforts may lead to a reconciliation, or to total rebuff. That doesn’t matter. I am doing them for my peace of mind and the cleansing of my spirit, not for the other person.

Hi, My name is Bill.

My sobriety date is September 14th, 1989.

I’ve been writing about recovery in a variety of places for some years. A couple of years ago I started a blog related to Buddhism — my own path toward spirituality (as opposed to religion) — and incorporated a bunch of articles and essays that I’d written as sort of a sideline. Those pages have gotten a bunch of hits, and a couple of the articles are quite popular around the Web, especially the one on Post Acute Withdrawal Syndrome (PAWS).

It has always bothered me, though, that the recovery stuff was relegated to a inner page of the site, and that it wasn’t in a location that could easily be found by anyone who was interested in addiction and alcoholism. Information like that saved my life, and might well have gotten me into treatment sooner had I known about things like the disease concept and similar matters.

Finally I determined to get the links out where they could be found. More…