Turn it upside-down: if late, practice patience; if put upon, understanding; if hurt, forgiveness. Seek always to learn what virtue can be applied so as to turn a problem into an opportunity to grow.
Resentment is a result of not being able to control the past;
Anger is a result of not being able to control the present; and
Fear is a result of not being able to control the future.
The study of physics has taught us four basic things about energy.
- Energy is never created or destroyed (this is called the First Law of Thermodynamics).
- Energy can be transferred from one object to another.
- Energy comes in many different forms, which can generally be divided into Potential or Kinetic energy.
- Energy can be converted from any one of these forms into any other, and vice versa.
These concepts can be applied to all sorts of metaphysical ideas by people who have heard of these properties but not gone any further in their studies of physics. However, we’re not talking about psychic energy and such; this is about energy as we use it daily, knowingly and with understanding.
When we apply energy we create work. In physics, work has a very specific definition: Continue reading
When we lose our ambition, it often turns out that we are sitting on it.
I’ve written about this before, but I think it’s important enough that I’m doing a sort of reprise.
I have a couple of friends from the program who call me almost daily. The calls are inevitably for one of two reasons: lightweight “bread-and-butter” calls (okay under some circumstances, just to touch base) or to bitch about things that they’d rather whine about than change (not okay, in case you didn’t get the drift).
Part of my job, as a person in recovery, is to support others traveling the same road. In the rooms we do that in various ways: sponsorship, example, showing up at meetings, sharing, taking phone calls, listening, fellowship, and any number of other things. These things are as integral a part of our programs as abstinence from acting out in our addictions. We don’t do these things simply out of altruism or codependency; they are the things that keep us on the path in sobriety. Frankly, I don’t dare not do them! They don’t make me special; they make me part of a program of recovery. Continue reading
This is a good day for gratitude and what-ifs: what if Bill had been offended by Bob’s issues with other drugs; what if Bill had just taken the drink he so desperately wanted, instead of looking for an alternative? What if they just hadn’t been sympatico – the high-pressure Easterner and the Midwestern physician? Would I still have my sobriety to be grateful for? What about my other 12-step fellowships?
Happy 82nd Birthday AA!
“Failure to accept our limitations is a cornerstone of insanity. Does facing life on life’s terms limit me, or does it free me?”
Joe C., “Beyond Belief”