- Am I getting to enough meetings?
- Do I have plenty of phone numbers?
- Do I make daily calls to others in recovery?
- Do I have a daily routine: reading, meditation, journaling?
- Do I review my day and consider my skillful and unskillful ways?
- Have I determined my bottom lines, worked on the Three Circles or considered my addictive habits with the help of another person?
- Have I examined the behaviors that lead up to acting out in my addiction and made necessary changes?
- Do I have a sponsor?
- Do I meet regularly with my sponsor?
- Am I making regular progress on the Steps?
- Am I enjoying fellowship; having some fun?
- Am I changing for the better, or just marking time?
There is an old Buddhist lesson concerning two monks who were traveling and came to a muddy stream.
Our addictions are a reality that persists regardless of our definition.
“The ‘freedom’ to define our own addictive pattern could not be used in a self-serving way. Our addictions are a reality that persists regardless of any short-sighted, convenient definition. If we were leaving out of our personal definition some behavior that was addictive, it would certainly pull us back into the pattern again.”
~ Sex And Love Addicts Anonymous, p. 72 (Step 1)
Are we in recovery, or just abstinent? Are we just hanging around the edges talking the talk, but not walking the walk?
[Believe me — I’ve done all this stuff at one time or another!]
Is our program not working for us? Are we in recovery, or just abstinent? Are we just hanging around the edges talking the talk, but not walking the walk?
Are we hiding behind our intellect, thinking that we know more about how to “fix” ourselves than all those “uneducated” people in the rooms? Continue reading “Is My Ego Getting In My Way?”
Recovery isn’t about
Recovery is about healing.
“Experience is a tough teacher.
First comes the test, then the lesson.”
~ Stephen Coonts