I think of this as Gratitude Day. (No, I’m not making a list.) Six years ago today it was forcefully brought to my attention that, after 23 years of thinking otherwise, I was not really sober.
I stopped using substances in September of 1989. It was easy. I detoxed in a treatment facility and hit the ground running. For many years I wondered why it had been so easy for me and difficult for many others. Sometimes I felt a little embarrassed that I couldn’t come up with any white-knuckle recovery stories. (There were plenty from “back in the day,” because I was unquestionably an addict.) Other times I fell into the trap of comparing rather than relating, feeling superior rather than examining the reality of my so-called “sobriety.”Continue reading →
Relationships in recovery are difficult, especially when we are in a continuing partnership that has been shaped, at least in part, by our addictive behavior. Remembering our part in the resulting mess and developing good communication skills are essential to our recovery, and that of the relationship.
Some questions to ask ourselves about our relationships.
First of all:
Am I using the tools of my recovery program to maintain a healthy relationship with myself?
Do I regularly check my behavior for fairness in my relationships with others? Do I evaluate them, and apologize when needed?
Do I further my recovery program by continuing to attend meetings, help others and share what I have learned and hope to learn about myself?
Am I using a relationship/relationships to replace another form of acting out — to “fill the hole” that I was trying to fill with substances or other behavior?
If I’m doing all of the above, living an active program of recovery, do I give the same attention to my personal relationships?Continue reading →
1. Watch the training video [link] below by clicking the picture of the hand holding the Narcan brand naloxone bottle.
2. Below the video is a quiz. After you’ve finished watching the video, scroll down to answer the quiz questions based on what you’ve learned.
3. Once you’ve completed the quiz, you may click the button that says “Get Naloxone”, this will take you to an enrollment page where you can enter your information to become a certified Opioid Overdose Responder and have naloxone mailed to you.
Next Naloxone does not mail within the five boroughs of New York City. If you live in New York City and are unable to obtain naloxone, please click HERE for a map of participating pharmacies, upcoming trainings, and a list of community-based naloxone distribution programs. If you’re still having an issue obtaining naloxone near you, contact us and we will work with you to locate a provider. Mail-based distribution is not available to supply firefighters, law enforcement, EMS, or school personnel as a part of their employed position. If you fit into one of these categories, please contact your supervisor or the NYSDOH or more information on specialized training. You can still participate in our mailing program if it’s for personal purposes.”
Note:“What, Me Sober?” has many opinions on outside issues and believes that controversy is exactly what the treatment field and the various support groups need.
Thinking in recovery circles has been too stagnated for too long. Our knowledge has come a long way from the early 20th Century, and it’s time to start thinking outside the “traditional” boxes when it comes to treatment. That said, we are not encouraging anyone to stop going to meetings. One thing that is necessary in recovery is support from folks who understand. People who lack it rarely get sober, whatever their particular addiction(s) may be, and the various support groups are the best place to find like-minded folks. Just don’t let the “Bleeding Deacons” panic you. After all, isn’t a closed mind one of the worst curses of alcoholism and other addictions? If WE, the people who’ve been there and done that, don’t keep open minds, how can we expect the folks who make decisions regarding legislation, insurance and so forth to do so? Hell, a lot of them are probably in denial about their own issues!
Read the article. If nothing else, it’ll be good for your circulation.
The United States already spends about $35 billion a year on alcohol- and substance-abuse treatment, yet heavy drinking causes 88,000 deaths a year—including deaths from car accidents and diseases linked to alcohol. It also costs the country hundreds of billions of dollars in expenses related to health care, criminal justice, motor-vehicle crashes, and lost workplace productivity, according to the CDC. With the Affordable Care Act’s expansion of coverage, it’s time to ask some important questions: Which treatments should we be willing to pay for? Have they been proved effective? And for whom—only those at the extreme end of the spectrum, or also those in the vast, long-overlooked middle? Lots more…