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Thought for the day — 9/11/2018

Forgiveness is for those who forgive, not for those who offend.
It does not preclude taking precautions to avoid further offense,
but it frees us to think coherently instead of clouding our minds
with the hatred that prompts good people to do hateful things.

Anger Stifles Recovery

by Bill

We see a lot of people in early recovery who are angry — angry at their parents, their bosses, the world, and often at themselves.  Anger can be a useful tool.  Nearly always a result of fear, whether obvious or hidden, anger prepares us to deal with challenges that demand forging on against whatever odds.  In many cases, the alternative would be cowering in a corner and waiting for the wolf to have its way with us.

When we are facing an obvious opponent, with obvious action to be taken, our anger can be used and often discharged.  But when the situation is such that we can’t strike back, through social position (say, at an employer) or size (a parent, bully or other), or simply because we have no recourse, anger can be a problem that far surpasses the cause. Continue reading

Traffic Management By Dunkin’ Donuts

the finger

by Bill

There’s a D’n’D just up the street from my wife’s workplace that often causes a traffic backup in the right lane.  I’ve gotten in the habit of staying in the left lane, then changing lanes ahead of the cars turning into the drive-though.

This morning I was just getting ready to make my lane change, and the “asshole” in the right lane didn’t turn into Dunkin’ Donuts. Boy, was I pissed! And then I thought, “Who’s the asshole here, anyway?”

I’m not really patient with other drivers. Continue reading