One of the interesting things about recovery is that by the time you have real wisdom to impart, you start to realize that it was nothing new anyway.
“I refuse to answer that question on the grounds that I don’t know the answer.”
Humility involves accepting that we are only human; we know only a little and our conclusions may be flawed. Be like the bamboo: the higher it grows, the deeper it bows.
“Ego is the sworn enemy of our ability to learn and grow.”
~ Zeno (334-262 BCE)
It is impossible for a man to learn what he thinks he already knows.
Epictetus (55-135 C.E.)
Tomorrow is Easter, and the third day of Passover. Many of us will be visiting with relatives, or we may be living at home. There will probably be some pressure to attend church, or temple during the coming week, and many of us have developed aversions to the religious practices of our families, for a variety of reasons that aren’t worth delving into here.
However, those of us who are involved in 12-step programs are in the process of making, or preparing to make, amends. Even though we may have our reservations, wouldn’t it be a wonderful surprise for our families if we tried to participate in the celebrations?
It wouldn’t cost us anything, really. Our “principles” were formed in our addictions, and such an endeavor will give us a chance to reevaluate them in the light of sobriety and clear thinking. We can tighten it up and “act as if” for a couple of hours.
And it would mean so much to them.
The Two Steps:
1. We admitted we powerless over our addictions — that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. We tried to carry this message to addicts (alcoholics, overeaters, gamblers…whatever).
All of us who have been around the rooms for awhile have seen the Two-Steppers, and some of us (myself included) even survived the experience ourselves. These folks are easily recognized by two traits: Their zeal for fixing others, and their lack of (or lack of use of) sponsors and the other encumberances of newcomers. Rather than collecting phone numbers, talking to old-timers, getting sponsors and becoming involved in their program of recovery, they jump from the first step to the 12th and set out to save the world — with or without its consent. As I mentioned, I’ve been there and I have the ratty old t-shirt to prove it.