Relationships in recovery are difficult, especially when we are in a continuing partnership that has been shaped, at least in part, by our addictive behavior. Remembering our part in the resulting mess and developing good communication skills are essential to our recovery, and that of the relationship.
Some questions to ask ourselves about our relationships.
First of all:
- Am I using the tools of my recovery program to maintain a healthy relationship with myself?
- Do I regularly check my behavior for fairness in my relationships with others? Do I evaluate them, and apologize when needed?
- Do I further my recovery program by continuing to attend meetings, help others and share what I have learned and hope to learn about myself?
- Am I using a relationship/relationships to replace another form of acting out — to “fill the hole” that I was trying to fill with substances or other behavior?
If I’m doing all of the above, living an active program of recovery, do I give the same attention to my personal relationships? Continue reading