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by Bill

In our addiction, we did “the next right thing” when it was convenient, or when it brought us something that we hoped to gain.  In recovery, living a good life is part of our practice.  We accomplish this through the Steps, our daily inventory, our meditation, our spiritual practices of whatever kind, and our determination to practice the principles of our program in all our affairs.

buddhaWe often hear it said that recovery is a journey or process, not a destination or event.  From time to time we have awarenesses in our lives, little “Aha!” moments when some aspect of our reality suddenly becomes clear.  These deserve our attention and contemplation, because they can mark the end of some bit of previously unfinished business.  It’s important to take note, because they often mean that it’s time to move on in some way.

In many respects, recovery is similar to the Buddhist concept of enlightenment: we become aware of our reality, rather than living in the fantasy of our addictions.  As with any other learning, once we comprehend the basics it’s time to build on them.  We incorporate our new awarenesses into our lives, not dwelling on them, but using it as a foundation for more skillful thinking and living.

13 Things I’ve Learned — Matthew McConaughey

NUMBER 1, LIFE’S NOT EASY…don’t try and make it that way. It’s not fair, it never was, it isn’t now, it won’t ever be. Do not fall into the entitlement trap of feeling you are a victim, you are not. Get over it and get on with it. And yes, most things are more rewarding when you break a sweat to get ’em.  More…


Do You Want To Be Right, Or Would You Rather Be Happy?

Resentments are the poison that we drink, and then wait for the other person to die.
– Anonymous

Some of the truest words you’ll ever read.

Think about it.  Think about that terrible thing that (insert name here) did to you back in the long-ago.  Think about how bad it made you feel.  Think about how you’d like to get back at (**),  how you’d like to tell them off in words that would make them shrivel and leave them with nothing at all to say.

How often do those thoughts come into your head?  Once a week?  Once a day? Continue reading

The House By The Side Of The Road

by Bill

“I know you’re in there
You’re just out of sight.”
~ Al Stewart

I can’t begin to number the times my wife has said to me over the years things on the order of “I just want to talk to the real you!”  It used to piss me off, because I was convinced that the “real” me was the legend I’d created in my mind and was attempting to project to the world.  Hell, it was frightening to think (because it was true) that there might be someone inside that I didn’t even know — someone who might blow my cover, who might leak the word that I wasn’t the tough guy I’d painted myself to be.  What if the world back then had known that I secretly wrote poetry; that my greatest ambition was to live in the woods, take pictures and write?  Would they have cared one way or the other?  Probably not.  But having been convinced that the real me wasn’t good enough, I wasn’t about to let them find out. Continue reading