Forgiveness is for those who forgive, not for those who offend.
It does not preclude taking precautions to avoid further offense,
but it frees us to think coherently instead of clouding our minds
with the hatred that prompts good people to do hateful things.
There is an old Buddhist lesson concerning two monks who were traveling and came to a muddy stream.
Resentments are the poison that we drink, and then wait for the other person to die.
Think about it. Think about that terrible thing that (insert name here) did to you back in the long-ago. Think about how bad it made you feel. Think about how you’d like to get back at (**), how you’d like to tell them off in words that would make them shrivel and leave them with nothing at all to say.
How often do those thoughts come into your head? Once a week? Once a day? Continue reading
I was with a group of folks recently who were discussing the fact that addiction is as much a problem of the mind as of the body. Yes, it is a physical disease, but it is also a complex of emotional difficulties and turmoil that can ruin a person’s life, even years after they have put the cork in the bottle or the tracks have faded. This true of all addicts who get clean but fail to make the necessary changes. Call it a “dry drunk, “stinkin’ thinkin’” or whatever you will, it is one of the main things that lead to misery while technically still clean and sober, and often relapse.
The specific topic was how folks sometimes think they can go ahead and drink or use other drugs socially. Continue reading